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What’s Hiding in Your Mind?

eye close upWould you consider yourself to be a fearful person? Most people would probably answer no to that question, yet fear is one of the most common hindrances that people struggle with today.  The reason for this discrepancy may surprise you:  fear can easily disguise itself as seemingly logical beliefs, thoughts and feelings so you may not even realize it’s there.

Rather than using the word fear to describe their feelings, many people might choose words like doubt, concern, worry, anxiety, uncertainty, hesitation, apprehension, procrastination, distrust or unease.

Ultimately they mean the same thing as fear. There is a thought, feeling, belief, or possible outcome that makes you feel uncomfortable or threatened and you will instinctively avoid things that make you feel that way.

Here are some common fears that could be hiding in your mind:

Fear of Failure

If you have ever held back on a goal or avoided taking action that would lead to a positive outcome, you may have been fearful that you might fail.  Fear of failure can be subtle because our minds can come up with endless excuses why it’s not a good time to take a risk right now, or how the odds don’t seem to be in our favor, and so on.

Fear of Success

It’s hard to believe that anyone could be afraid of success (isn’t success usually a good thing?) but it’s far more common than you might believe.  Most often it’s not the success itself that people fear, but rather all of the responsibilities and uncertainties that come along with success.  If you worry that you won’t be able to handle these things, you will resist putting yourself in a position where you would have to face them.

Fear of Rejection

Fear of rejection is usually related to low self-esteem, but may show up in subtle ways.  You may lash out at others when a possible rejection is imminent; sabotage relationships so you can be the one who rejects the other person instead of them rejecting you; or you may simply withdraw from social interaction to avoid the possibility of being rejected at all.

Fear of Not Being Good Enough

This is another fear that is connected to self-esteem, and it often affects everything you do in life.  You may avoid making changes to improve your life; settle for a dissatisfying job that pays less money than you are capable of earning; or continuously sabotage your goals.  If you don’t believe you deserve to have better life circumstances you won’t allow yourself to create them.

Once you have identified one or more of these fears, you can begin diffusing them with mind and body techniques that will calm your emotions, relax your body and get your thoughts flowing in a positive direction again.  For most people this will be an ongoing process because our minds become conditioned to respond to fear stimulus and it will seem to happen automatically for some time.  However, getting into the habit of addressing the fear in new healthy ways should set a new pattern to minimize the conditioned responses and even eliminate them over time.

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Get Peak Confidence Gain Success – Review

There are probably hundreds of confidence building products out there on the internet today, yet it’s difficult to find one that addresses every important issue there is to know about building confidence effectively.  Some may assure you that building confidence is as easy as following a 3-step program, others may claim to have you confident and raring to go within 3 days or 3 hours.

The first time I stumbled upon Peak Confidence, I thought it may have been one of those rehashed confidence building books that wasn’t worth another second of my time. But having read the free report provided, I thought that it provided an interesting perspective on confidence building, and the visualization techniques in the report were quite enlightening.

I was convinced by the free report to give
Peak Confidence a go. The free report contained  techniques I found valuable so I thought the entire course was worth a try.

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Terri Levine – Guru of Coaching – Speaker Training

Terri LevineThe guru of coaching, Terri Levine,  hosted a speaker training this past Thursday in Philadelphia for coaches, entrepreneurs and small business owners.  Iv’e been to many speaker training programs but never one like this.

First Terri, never presents the same program twice.  Second, the information is always current to the marketplace–I mean now–not six months ago.  And third, the opportunity to practice  the concepts presented and apply them before you leave the room provides immediate results.

This program was less “speaker training” and more “how to present yourself powerfully.”  Whether it was story telling, selling from the front-of -the-room or expressing yourself authentically, Terri showed you how and then nudged you to do it on-the-spot – no rehearsal or planning or scripting.  Just do it!

Marketing and joint venturing are the keys to business success and Terri Levine practices what she preaches.  Those that attend her sessions are among the most generous people I’ve ever met.  People that are willing to share not just resources, information,  and knowledge, but immediate,  tangible support and  honest evaluations.

Often, after attending other programs or conferences it’s up to you to figure out what to keep and what to toss, who to work with and who you can support.  With Terri Levine’s sessions you’re not only clear about what to do next you’re actually doing it before you leave and with a support team already in place.

5 Shortcuts to Make Travel Less Challenging

954283_sea_compass_2Travelers are always looking for ways to maximize their time and minimize annoyances.

Whether you’re new to  life-on-the-road or a seasoned pro I’ve discovered 5 shortcuts that make packing
easier and travel more enjoyable.

5 Shortcuts that Make Travel Less Challenging

  1. Keep a list or photos of your clothing and accessories. This will provide identification if luggage is lost or stolen. It also expedites packing for your next trip.
  1. Use the layer and nest method of packing. Limit colors—this eases the number of garments and shoes you need to pack and helps achieve a more pulled-together look. Pack shoes covered in flannel shoe mitts at the bottom of your bag (place the heaviest pair wheel-side) and along the seams. Place your toiletries bag or shave kit in the middle. Fill spaces with socks or rolled items. Cover these items with a cleaner bag. Start with trousers open and centered on the cleaner bag (the legs will be draped over the side.)  Layer garments inside and end by folding the trouser legs and the waistband over each other. Place a layer of tissue paper between your garments. This method keeps clothing wrinkle-free and prevents shifting. Place a cleaner bag on top as an added layer of protection from the elements and baggage malfunctions.
  1. Develop a capsule wardrobe plan—one that can travel between climates. Multi-city travel can easily involve a huge swing in weather and environments. Tropical weight wools travel well and layer easily. Women should pack a lightweight wrap in their carry-on luggage for cabin comfort and cool meeting rooms.
  1. Ask about terry robes—good hotels will provide them even if you aren’t staying on the executive or concierge floor.  Just ask.
  1. If you are staying in a business district, ask if a neighboring office building has a food court. You can find delightful food choices and save money.  Pack healthy cereal in individual baggies. Request a bowl and add fruit from the buffet table to cut fat and sugar.

Bonus tip—ask upfront for the best room. This works especially well for convention travel where you are booked into a block of rooms at a reduced rate. These rooms are often small and inconveniently located. Be assertive and polite. Appropriate humor helps.

Use these shortcut tips and you can boost the speed and enjoyment of your next trip—business or pleasure.

Michael Losier’s LOA Program Inspires NY Audience

I had the privilege of helping my sister host Michael Losier last week in his NY appearance. His Law of Attraction program was well received and the audience was clearly involved in the presentation. Losier has honed his LOA process930872_freedom-bird down to a science and the often challenging NY audience paid rapt attention.

Losier’s new book, The Law of Connection,  sold well and I recommend it as a both a resource and a training outline for NLP and communication skills seminar leaders.

My sister’s effort at producing this event was herculean. I was also impressed by Losier’s  graciousness at acknowledging the difficulties of getting New Yorker’s (or other large city inhabitants) to commit time and money up front to attend anything. It’s a shame really, as the the information and the clarity in which he presents the Law of Attraction works for anyone – personally or professionally.

Thank you, Michael, it was an honor.

“The Success Principles” a Reference Book for Life

photo_3494_20090110open-bookI’ve been a fan of Jack Canfield before he became a super-star in the “Achievement” market. Yes, Jack Canfield is the co-creator of the “Chicken Soup Series” phenomenon, but that was never the source of my enthusiasm.

What initiated my fervor was a book published in 1995 called ‘The Aladdin Factor’ , written by Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. The premise of this little tome is about asking for anything-something I struggled with at the time. My now yellowed copy is dog-eared, highlighted and post-noted to this day. Every now and again I pull it off the shelf as a reminder that I don’t have to know everything; I only have to know that it’s okay to ask for help, for support, for money, for the sale, for anything.

Ten years, many books and mega-fame later, Canfield wrote The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be with Janet Switzer. Equally dog-eared and post-noted, this voulume is stashed close-at-hand as a life resource. The sixty-four principles are supported with stories an dhow-to’s.  A random pick of any page and something  I read is going to give me an a-ha moment.

Right now I flipped open to page 157 (dog-eared) and the topic is “the most valuable question you may ever learn.” Wonder what that is? . . .

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