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Communication — A Better Life through Word Play

I believe in words. I believe in the power they hold. I believe in the story a single word creates.

Bouquet. Tendril. Secret. An encounter with my junk drawer unearthed a buried book of Magnetic Poetry – that simple but ingenious invention—affirmed my faith in words.

My Magnetic Poetry book—a  chunky spiral bound tome—is filled with refrigerator cryptograms and provides the perfect opportunity to tell a story. Magnetic words can be used anyone—anyone big enough to reach the icebox and with enough digital dexterity to separate the tiny words from their magnetic home base.

Precocious toddlers, stooped elders and funny kids can participate. Lovers, newly-weds and the long married have equal access. Universal in its appeal, you can love it or hate it and still partake in it.

It’s Scrabble without the stress, a crossword without the clues or hangman without the noose. The object is to embrace all of poetry’s shapes—odes and lunes and tanka and tercet. Forced to create from limited resources compels us to pare down to essentials.  It requires the sentence creator to wholeheartedly do their job.

In this game the words take center stage. I have my favorites among the magnetic options.

Summer and song and secret.

Liquid and love and leave.

I love the creativity of put-together words like out-let and song-bird.

I love vivid words like summer and plums.

I love lexis that buzz and jump and make you look twice while pretending not to.

I love Haiku and tiny tales that jump off the board and send tidal waves of Oh’s to passersby.

liquid songs pronounce

morning shower so lovely

summers secret sound

Or

teach from here you said

bruised tongue staggers over his page

dark red book blossoms

Pure expression and creative endeavor—pick up a few words today—tell a miniature story.

Leave your poem below!

(original post Aug ’09)

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There are probably hundreds of confidence building products out there on the internet today, yet it’s difficult to find one that addresses every important issue there is to know about building confidence effectively.  Some may assure you that building confidence is as easy as following a 3-step program, others may claim to have you confident and raring to go within 3 days or 3 hours.

The first time I stumbled upon Peak Confidence, I thought it may have been one of those rehashed confidence building books that wasn’t worth another second of my time. But having read the free report provided, I thought that it provided an interesting perspective on confidence building, and the visualization techniques in the report were quite enlightening.

I was convinced by the free report to give
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Communicating with Relatives and Others

1000269_question__markYour communication skills, especially listening, are tested the most with family.

I’m in Indiana this week visiting relatives of my main squeeze–the perfect opportunity to practice what I preach.

Good communication requires listening and staying present and engaged in the dialogue.  Asking sincere questions is the best way to gentle nudge a conversation along.

To keep the conversation from sounding like an interrogation try repeating the last word or two spoken with a question mark on the end.  It invites more information in a gentle way.

For example, if Aunt Shirley’s last few words are . . .”Bob’s sister used to live in this area.”  You reply  “…in this area?”

This is enough for Aunt Shirley to expound. . .”yes, this area  was quite beautiful before the flood.  You…”the flood?”

Are you getting the gist? It’s quite simple and takes the angst out of trying to find something in common to talk about.

Try it. You might be surprised at how interesting YOU become when you haven’t spoken more than a few  words and phrases.

Non-Verbal Communication…a Hug!

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Intuition–The Decision Making Difference

The best decision making involves three elements–logic, common sense and intuition. 1108003_say_what1

Most decision making involves weighing the pros and cons related to possible outcomes. While this involves both logic and common sense it fails to consider the most critical factor-intuition.

Insight, Instinct or Intuition. Call it what you will but without involving the natural ability of our minds and bodies to indicate what’s most important we fail to honor who we are. Intuition is the barometer for what feels right and what we know without knowing why we know.

Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking, examines how choices can be made in an instant and why the best decisions are often those that are unexplainable to others.

Here are five things to practice if you want to add insight to your decision making:

  1. If you regularly make a pros and cons list, practice adding a third column labeled “what I know” to prompt your inner knowing.
  2. Give yourself permission to practice and to be wrong. Information overload can easily confuse a feeling or message.
  3. Carve out quiet time. Meditation sounds like work but ten minutes of quiet, non-activity time sounds like relief. Release the pressure to quiet your mind.
  4. Practice being present rather than trying to quiet your mind. This practice works well while you’re performing a mundane task.
  5. Don’t dismiss anything you feel or hear or see or smell. Notice what comes up first. Take note of it–write down any images that flash. Ask for more clarity. Become a student.

Imagine that you already know the answer. Have some fun with this practice-don’t make it another item on your to-do list. Our sixth sense has a sense of humor, go ahead and enjoy it.
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Michael Losier’s LOA Program Inspires NY Audience

I had the privilege of helping my sister host Michael Losier last week in his NY appearance. His Law of Attraction program was well received and the audience was clearly involved in the presentation. Losier has honed his LOA process930872_freedom-bird down to a science and the often challenging NY audience paid rapt attention.

Losier’s new book, The Law of Connection,  sold well and I recommend it as a both a resource and a training outline for NLP and communication skills seminar leaders.

My sister’s effort at producing this event was herculean. I was also impressed by Losier’s  graciousness at acknowledging the difficulties of getting New Yorker’s (or other large city inhabitants) to commit time and money up front to attend anything. It’s a shame really, as the the information and the clarity in which he presents the Law of Attraction works for anyone – personally or professionally.

Thank you, Michael, it was an honor.

Connection–The New Law of Attraction

51nwgzqrzcl_sl160_connection Connection may be the new word for communication. Law of Connection: The Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships is also the new book by Michael Losier, the author of The Law of Attraction. Losier will début the book at his New York appearance on June 11, 2009. Losier, an NLP practitioner, simplifies the principles of neuro-linguistic programming into exercises, scripts and tips for creating ideal personal and professional relationships. Tons of examples and exercises make applying and integrating NLP into your life a simple process. Connection the ability to create rapport with anyone at any time-a key skill for today’s high tech-low touch world. Get connected!

Communication and Change

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Bless me world for I have sinned. It’s been several months since my last communication. I thought my last post might have been my swan song. But . . . you never know.

A change for the better.The last few months have been spent creating a business where I can use my gifts and talents in a way that is helpful for others. In particular, helpful to those people that want, need and can pay for the wisdom and benefits of said talents.

No easy task indeed. Some people just know what they are suppose to share with the world and others know the how but not the what. Let me explain. I’m supposed to teach. Not kids, but adults and more specifically business people. The teaching is the “how”, yet the “what” was unclear for me.

I knew the big topic was communication skills. I also knew that the story around that subject was the message that “you choose your response to any situation.” That’s how this blog started-a need to express my dreams for a better life (once again) after experiencing a few more rounds of “stuff happens.” Fun venue, but it didn’t butter the bread.

A few wrong turns, a couple of detours, several weeks of teeth gnashing and a bit of progress is beginning to show. A new enterprise (or two) is in the works-which gets back to why “help yourself” . . . was abandoned. I missed this placed. I needed to share some musings-yet, it’s no guarantee I’ll be back for good. Stay tuned.

I Wonder What I’ll Learn Today

I wonder why everyone wants to talk but no one wants to listen. Just watch Celebrity Apprentice to see the perfect example.1108003_say_what

I wonder why interrupters “know” what someone is going to say but aren’t very intuitive about anything else.

I wonder why communication “breaks down” everyday. Is this the grand lesson we never get to master?

I wonder why “the first, most important thing to do” always follows the thing you’re actually doing.

I wonder where interesting words have gone. Is ennui too lazy to make an appearance?Is lugubrious too grief-stricken to rise from the dead? Does oracular feel too shrouded in mystery to grace us with its presence?

I wonder if we’re here to hear.

I wonder if “presence” is really the present.

 I wonder why, when I’ve immersed myself in “self-growth,” I’m still not five foot tall.

What the Heck are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

heart-snowSimply put, soft skills are the abilities  to get along with others. Okay, they include a lot more than that but I’m painting with a broad stroke.  

Good soft skills make the world go around. Poor skills create misunderstanding or unfavorable impressions.

If no man is an island then soft skills are the mainland. Think of the cell phone  commercial featuring a customer with his service team behind him. That team represents all the skills you need to ensure you stay connected. And staying connected is the key to everything you hope to accomplish in this world.

Why-because everything you do, you do with or through other people.

Much like Robert Fulghum’s book, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten or Dale Carnegie’s, How to Win Friends & Influence People, the principles are simple. The execution-not always so easy.

A quick review of Fulghum’s lessons learned reveals the simplicity. Consider these. . . Read more