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Success – Listening for Answers

587980_snailSuccess skills for life are found in the listening. Pay attention to the silent messages that can not be heard on the surface. Listen around the noise and you’ll hear a richness and resonance that can’t be found in the chatter.

The answers are all there. Everything you have done, felt, seen, tasted and touched holds a moment of truth.  Success is in that moment and the next. Each moment savored.

Listen and learn. Look back at the options you had in every circumstance and evaluate them now–not from a critical eye but from a kind heart.

Look inside yourself and decide what will be right for you now. Follow that path.

The answers are already in us—we just need to listen.

Non-Verbal Communication…a Hug!

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Live Law of Attraction

Michael Losier’s book, Law of Attraction, gives a straightforward look at the science behind attrasos-button-b3jcting more of what you want in your life and less of what you don’t want.

Deliberate Attraction is a powerful force at work in your life whether you believe in or not. Whatever energy you put forth to the universe, through thought, words and feelings is what you’ll receive back into your life.

Losier says that if you find yourself attracting angry people, cranky customers, and stressful situations, you might want to consider what you are focusing on most of the time.

Good time for a little reality check. Are you anger, frustrated, cranky and stressed?

Do you want more clients, yet focus on your lack of customers?

Do you desire better communication with your spouse, partner, kids or business associates yet spend hours feeling anger or frustrated about those relationships?

Most of time, we are not conscious of our thoughts on an emotional level. And, the energy we send out is from those emotions.

Consider how frequently you go through a day with clenched fists, a tight jaw or raised shoulders without realizing it until someone makes a comment. The universe complies with your true feelings and gives you a headache and stiff neck, just as you requested.

Yes, your emotions and your body are connected. No mystery there. The Law of Attraction is like gravity, it’s always at work like it or not.

Wouldn’t it be powerful if you could tap into it and deliberately change your attractions? Losier provides some simple steps to help get you aligned.

Even if you don’t quite believe in it, consider Law of Attraction like any other belief. It might not be true but just in case it is you might as well take some precautions.

If you want to know more about living The Law of Attraction or attend a seminar go to Live Law of Attraction.com.

I Wonder What I’ll Learn Today

I wonder why everyone wants to talk but no one wants to listen. Just watch Celebrity Apprentice to see the perfect example.1108003_say_what

I wonder why interrupters “know” what someone is going to say but aren’t very intuitive about anything else.

I wonder why communication “breaks down” everyday. Is this the grand lesson we never get to master?

I wonder why “the first, most important thing to do” always follows the thing you’re actually doing.

I wonder where interesting words have gone. Is ennui too lazy to make an appearance?Is lugubrious too grief-stricken to rise from the dead? Does oracular feel too shrouded in mystery to grace us with its presence?

I wonder if we’re here to hear.

I wonder if “presence” is really the present.

 I wonder why, when I’ve immersed myself in “self-growth,” I’m still not five foot tall.

What the Heck are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

heart-snowSimply put, soft skills are the abilities  to get along with others. Okay, they include a lot more than that but I’m painting with a broad stroke.  

Good soft skills make the world go around. Poor skills create misunderstanding or unfavorable impressions.

If no man is an island then soft skills are the mainland. Think of the cell phone  commercial featuring a customer with his service team behind him. That team represents all the skills you need to ensure you stay connected. And staying connected is the key to everything you hope to accomplish in this world.

Why-because everything you do, you do with or through other people.

Much like Robert Fulghum’s book, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten or Dale Carnegie’s, How to Win Friends & Influence People, the principles are simple. The execution-not always so easy.

A quick review of Fulghum’s lessons learned reveals the simplicity. Consider these. . . Read more

“The Success Principles” a Reference Book for Life

photo_3494_20090110open-bookI’ve been a fan of Jack Canfield before he became a super-star in the “Achievement” market. Yes, Jack Canfield is the co-creator of the “Chicken Soup Series” phenomenon, but that was never the source of my enthusiasm.

What initiated my fervor was a book published in 1995 called ‘The Aladdin Factor’ , written by Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. The premise of this little tome is about asking for anything-something I struggled with at the time. My now yellowed copy is dog-eared, highlighted and post-noted to this day. Every now and again I pull it off the shelf as a reminder that I don’t have to know everything; I only have to know that it’s okay to ask for help, for support, for money, for the sale, for anything.

Ten years, many books and mega-fame later, Canfield wrote The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be with Janet Switzer. Equally dog-eared and post-noted, this voulume is stashed close-at-hand as a life resource. The sixty-four principles are supported with stories an dhow-to’s.  A random pick of any page and something  I read is going to give me an a-ha moment.

Right now I flipped open to page 157 (dog-eared) and the topic is “the most valuable question you may ever learn.” Wonder what that is? . . .

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Have You Listened to Yourself Lately?

33395_mouthThere are two kinds of people in the world. People who focus on solutions and people who take delight in expanding problems. You can tell the difference by listening to what they say.

Solution-oriented people rarely spend time assigning blame. They are forward thinking and take actions that move things along. These creative problem solvers use both logic and random input to work out challenges.

Personally or professionally, solution types use language that is distinctly positive without being Pollyannaish. You’ll hear them say, “What’s another possibility?” or “How about this option?” They tend to be collaborative in an effort to generate ideas. Overall, they are more optimistic and enjoyable to be around.

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Listen . . . A Thought is Just a Thought

baby1Over the years, I have encountered people who have said to me, “That’s just how I think, I can’t change overnight!”

Of course, my first reaction to that is-“Of course you can.”

I might suggest that a good chunk of your day is spent changing your thoughts. For instance, you might be thinking about pizza for lunch until a co-worker suggests Chinese pot-stickers.  Miraculously that pizza thought switches to fried and steamed dumplings dipped in fermented black bean sauce. It didn’t take days, hours or even minutes to make the switch. You did it in a moment.

So what happened? Were you less committed to the pizza idea than to the thought that says “I hate my job” or “I don’t like that person?” Maybe . . . or maybe you were given an alternate choice for the pizza but you can’t see another choice for “I hate my job.” 

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Awareness is in the air . . . have you noticed?

untitledI was speaking to my friend K. yesterday and in the midst of our conversation she said, “I’m being very aware of the people around me.”

I was momentarily stunned by the comment because I had never heard her make an observation of herself with such intention and clarity. 

K. is in the midst of a rather intensive training program for a new job. Her comment referred to her fellow trainees in the program but also, I suspect, to her recently expanding circle of spiritual friends.

The very act of “intentional awareness” allowed K. to gain a deeper level of understanding for all of the new people in her life, simply by being fully present to them. Her passion for this “intentional awareness” is palpable.

It’s clear to me that “listening and awareness” are critical skills, which if mastered can improve any area of your life. I have spent a good portion of my life feeling or being “invisible” and I suspect many others feel the same way. A desire to be heard lies within most of us. 

My passion is to teach others how to listen and develop “intentional awareness” in order to be heard, just the way my friend K has done.

Listening to Intuition – There’s Much to Learn

Yesterday I was sitting on my porch writing. There are few distractions there 4245578park-benchand I enjoy the expansive view of Turkey Lake from my four-story perch.

Occasionally, I can hear the rhythm of skate boards on the concrete path, the buzz of leaf blowers when the landscapers are working and the animated voices of cell phone chatterers who can’t seem to take a stroll alone.

What I heard yesterday was the sound of rustling paper and the tumble of charcoal falling into the lone grill parked just off the corner of the path, before it loops around for a U-turn. The grill is for the convenience of condo owners, but it is rarely used.

Curiosity got the best of me.

After all it was mid-afternoon, mid-week, not exactly rush-hour for barbequing. Read more