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Communicating with Relatives and Others

1000269_question__markYour communication skills, especially listening, are tested the most with family.

I’m in Indiana this week visiting relatives of my main squeeze–the perfect opportunity to practice what I preach.

Good communication requires listening and staying present and engaged in the dialogue.  Asking sincere questions is the best way to gentle nudge a conversation along.

To keep the conversation from sounding like an interrogation try repeating the last word or two spoken with a question mark on the end.  It invites more information in a gentle way.

For example, if Aunt Shirley’s last few words are . . .”Bob’s sister used to live in this area.”  You reply  “…in this area?”

This is enough for Aunt Shirley to expound. . .”yes, this area  was quite beautiful before the flood.  You…”the flood?”

Are you getting the gist? It’s quite simple and takes the angst out of trying to find something in common to talk about.

Try it. You might be surprised at how interesting YOU become when you haven’t spoken more than a few  words and phrases.

Non-Verbal Communication…a Hug!

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Connection–The New Law of Attraction

51nwgzqrzcl_sl160_connection Connection may be the new word for communication. Law of Connection: The Science of Using NLP to Create Ideal Personal and Professional Relationships is also the new book by Michael Losier, the author of The Law of Attraction. Losier will début the book at his New York appearance on June 11, 2009. Losier, an NLP practitioner, simplifies the principles of neuro-linguistic programming into exercises, scripts and tips for creating ideal personal and professional relationships. Tons of examples and exercises make applying and integrating NLP into your life a simple process. Connection the ability to create rapport with anyone at any time-a key skill for today’s high tech-low touch world. Get connected!

What the Heck are Soft Skills and Why are they so Important?

heart-snowSimply put, soft skills are the abilities  to get along with others. Okay, they include a lot more than that but I’m painting with a broad stroke.  

Good soft skills make the world go around. Poor skills create misunderstanding or unfavorable impressions.

If no man is an island then soft skills are the mainland. Think of the cell phone  commercial featuring a customer with his service team behind him. That team represents all the skills you need to ensure you stay connected. And staying connected is the key to everything you hope to accomplish in this world.

Why-because everything you do, you do with or through other people.

Much like Robert Fulghum’s book, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten or Dale Carnegie’s, How to Win Friends & Influence People, the principles are simple. The execution-not always so easy.

A quick review of Fulghum’s lessons learned reveals the simplicity. Consider these. . . Read more